So, continuing on my theme of friendship, what are friends actually for?
I think that they are especially valuable when they challenge us–to look at ourselves differently, to think about things differently, to get out of our own way. I recently had a dilemma about one of the people I work with. He has been in a difficult family situation, I’ve been watching from a distance, and it finally reached a point where it is jeopardizing our business.
What to do? Say something I think will help? Stay back and see what happens? Talk behind his back to others and share our opinions with each other but not tell him? I have done bits of the last two choices and found them to be unsatisfactory. They didn’t help….
So after sleeping on it, I sat down and wrote him a long letter this morning. I told him what I thought, I made a few suggestions and pushed send. And I took a big risk!
I don’t know what will come of it, but at least I did something, and even if he reacts negatively to what I wrote, I can at least look myself in the mirror and know I did what I believed was the right thing to do. Isn’t that what friends are for?